Responsibility – Life Lessons

Why is it okay for people we love to hurt others, as long as we are not the victims? Did you know it could be just a matter of time before they hurt you?

Some stuff really isn’t our business and should not become our problem, but that does not make it okay either. For instance, if your friend is cheating on her husband, you shouldn’t get involved. But you can encourage your friend to seek other ways of dealing with her marital problems before the situation turns out bad.

Nevertheless, if your friend openly admits to being a scammer and you say nothing about it, then you’re a part of the problem. As long as she’s not scamming you (yet), that does not make her behavior okay. You should tell your friend she is wrong and needs to stop immediately. Go a step further and disassociate yourself with her if she doesn’t stop. Otherwise, when she does it to you, you cannot say she didn’t show you who she was.

A relationship is only healthy when positive energy flows in both directions. Associating with a person who has negative energy or evil intentions is no different from listening to bad music. Whether you realize it or not, you are being negatively influenced, and no relationship is worth the risk.

If you happen to hit a rough patch, you just might think about how your friend got away with her last scam and consider it. You may not act on it, if you’re strong-willed and have morals. However, the thought probably would not have crossed your mind had you not been entertaining your scamming friend.

Evil is not limited to friendships. Some people are sleeping with the enemy; hopefully, not you. That influence is more dangerous than the friendship. It’s easier to pick up on bad habits of one you sleep with every day. More so, you are likely to become the next victim. Leave that relationship before it’s too late. If you’re married to that person, you should seek spiritual intervention.

Good always wins. It may not seem like it in some instances, but you will gain peace of mind and sleep better at night. And that’s what counts.

“You’re only as good as the company you keep. Be the change you want to see in your circle.”

-Bianca A. McCormick-Johnson ✍🏽

It was a cold winter night. You were drinking. So was she. One thing led to another, and your lover conceived. When she tells you she’s pregnant, you reply, “For me?” If chickens can lay eggs, then so can she. No protection was used, yet you are wondering how it’s possible. If you would have put down that bottle, you wouldn’t have to face this obstacle.

Men, you have to take responsibility for your actions. You can enjoy the company of a female without getting her pregnant. If you didn’t trust her, then why did you sleep with her, let alone fail to use protection? Do you think you are exempt from catching STDs? There is no cure for HIV. And if there is, you probably can’t afford it. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be all tense behind taking care of a child you claim is not yours. Women have it hard enough having to carry the child. It puts even more stress on her when the man she slept with denies her child.

Don’t let a one night stand turn you into a father you are not ready to be. That’s why there are so many illegitimate children in the world seeking the love and attention missing from the absent parent. This is especially true for young women. Do you ever wonder why some girls are easy or always have their hands out? It’s because a daddy is the first man in a girl’s life. He spoils her and treats her like a princess. When she becomes a woman, she doesn’t settle for empty love and does not need your handouts. The absence of this kind of love leads to a broken heart and empty pockets. Every female is different, of course, but this is true for many.

So if you are not ready to man up and take responsibility, keep it in your pants or wear protection next time. If you could never see yourself building a family with her, don’t even take the chance.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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