Positivity – Page 7 – Life Lessons

I’m Fake All Day, But My Tears Are Real

Don’t be fooled by a person’s social media posts. It appears that most of us do not wear our hearts on our sleeves. I’m actually glad many of us don’t because some people’s posts would be so depressing. However, one needs a dose of good and bad to sustain a healthy living. What I mean is seeing that others might have it worst than you can make you appreciate your current situation.

People tend to fake like their happy, fake like their in a relationship, fake like their balling, and even fake like their in a profession that they’re not. Everyone who wears scrubs is not a nurse. Just as everyone who works with kids is not a school teacher. You can’t keep believing everything you see, then go wining to your husband or boyfriend of how you’d like your life to be. Most of the time, you might be happier than they are in your current situation.

Truth is, no one is one hundred percent happy all the time. People just don’t like to admit it. Happiness is a temporary feeling spawned by a favorable gesture, person, thing, or event. People are not happy when their loved one passes. People are usually not happy after a bad break-up or ugly divorce. People are not happy when their teenagers are out of control. People are not happy when they lose their jobs. People are not happy after having a car repossessed or foreclosing on a home. People are not happy after filing bankrupt. People are not quite happy when they’re flat broke. As you can see, there are several instances in life that can make one unhappy.

So before you begin to relish in other’s misfortunes, think about the times in life when you weren’t happy. Yeah, they’re posts might be fraudulent, but their tears are real. Some people yearn for attention and turn to social media for it. That might not be your approach, but it’s their way of coping with life. Maybe they are imagining themselves in a better situation with the hope of being in a better situation some day. We all do that at some point in life, just not on social media.

Remember, happiness is momentarily. When people look happy, they just might be – at the moment. Social media gives people another way of expressing their happiness, so let them be. In a world of cruelty and injustice, I love to see people smiling and enjoying life, even if they are faking it. Misery loves company and invites the most sinister behaviors. I’d rather view fake posts all day than some of the negativity I see getting glorified on social media.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Spread Cheer All Year

‘Tis the season to be jolly…fa la la la la la la la la. I’m sure you all are familiar with that famous line. It brings warmth and cheer during the Christmas season, doesn’t it? Well why is it that we don’t strive to spread warmth and cheer all throughout the year? It saddens me to see how cruel people can be towards one another all throughout the year, then turn around and act like angels and saints during the Christmas season. Something’s wrong with that picture.

If during the Christmas season is the only time you are giving and showing love and care for others, you are a hypocrite. Doing good deeds only during the Christmas holidays and major world crises do not make you a virtuous person. It makes you a pretentious person. If no one else was giving during the holidays, you probably wouldn’t either. I’m not saying you are malign either, but you’re definitely not a saint.

People need love, care, and attention all throughout the year, not just at Christmas. I believe if people exercised their due diligence all year long, less people would suffer and succumb to the evils of the world. People should not have to wait until the end of the year or some major catastrophe to happen just to get help. We love to offer our prayers as support, but prayer with no action is not substantial. God puts people in place on Earth to do His works. If you didn’t believe so, then you would let God himself deliver gifts at Christmas time.

Every day, people need food. Every day, people need money. Every day, people need support. Every day, people need love, care, attention, prayers, etc. You needed it when you lost your loved one. You needed it when you lost your job. You needed it when you were destitute. You needed it when you were trying something new. You needed it when you were lonely. You needed it after your divorce. You needed it when you had moments of despair, anxiety, and pity. Because you know what it feels like to have a need, you should always be prepared to be a blessing.

I see many people’s requests and outcries get ignored all the time. When a person loses a loved one, many offer prayers and condolences. Some want to know how did so and so die? But how many offer their money, time, or services? Why must one be a celebrity or other iconic figure to gain support? Why must it capture the world’s attention to create a sense of urgency? Why must people die to get the attention they needed when they were alive? You can promote the welfare of others with your own good works. You can bring out the best in people by doing something good for them. Many people who do good works all throughout the year either have empathy, a zeal for helping people, and/or they are simply paying it forward.

If ever someone has to tell you to do a good deed, you should reflect on your own life, count your blessings, and rethink your morality.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Internet Thuggin’ Ain’t Saying Nothing

If fights on social media could actually come to life, they would be something to see. It would be pure bloodshed! Internet thuggin’ or as some would say, “thumb thuggin” is very common nowadays. In a sense, I guess it’s better than having a real fight because typically no one becomes physically harmed. Nevertheless, I really don’t get the social media beef among people who know each other. Many times, they are supposed to be so-called friends or acquaintances. It usually starts from a subliminal message intended for the person who the beef is with. At least, the other person assumes it is for him or her. That’s why social media is not a good place to vent.

The guilty party always replies to the post. Of course, she’s paying most attention because she knows that she may have offended that person. Instead of texting that person directly (because they usually have each other’s number), the guilty person decides to reply in a slick or unfriendly way. Now the emotional roller coaster starts, and things start to get ugly. Before you know it, the two are exchanging expletives and fighting words over the Internet. In many cases, the fight never happens. However, in some cases, it does.

Do you know what kind of message you are sending about yourself when you engage in such fight with a friend? For one, you are not a true friend. For two, you are a coward. For three, you’re guilty. For four, you’re delusional! People have every right to post whatever they want to, including how they are feeling at the time. Nonetheless, what used to be private conversations with a trusted person has become the world’s business.

New technology should never dispose of good old habits. In the past, you would have called or confronted that person, especially a friend or close acquaintance. Why have a meaningless battle on social media with a friend when you have other means of communicating? I can kind of see this happening among strangers, for it does all the time but not friends and associates. Is it really worth humiliating a friend out of feelings? Feelings are temporary, but friendships are supposed to be forever. Would you want to be remembered as the person who sabotaged a friendship on the Internet? I surely hope not. Not only is your friendship at stake but so is your character.

Words of Wisdom

Be slow to speak, and think before you act. You never who is watching and might be placed in a position to elevate you. Some employers visit potential applicants’ social media pages just to get insight on their behavior and character. Once you put it out there, it’s out there, even after you delete it. It can take months or even years to paint a new picture of a different you. When your thumbs go to typing, people are watching. With that being said, let your messages be remembered in a positive light. Use your voice to uplift, encourage, inspire, empower, and motivate others.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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