Love – Page 5 – Life Lessons

I’ve Earned This Body

You see this bulge in my belly.
My four kids did that.
If it wasn’t such a blessing,
It wouldn’t be called baby fat.

That fat hanging off my sides.
It aint’ called love handles for nothing.
I may not be your Ebony model,
But I’m a trophy to my husband.

You see that fat on my back?
I didn’t ask for that.
But it matches my rump shaker,
Which cuts my jeans no slack.

These arms might jiggle a little.
My walk now has a lil wiggle.
But ain’t nothing unhealthy about me,
As long as my tummy doesn’t triple.

Being unfit doesn’t make you unhealthy.
Being trim doesn’t make you a gem.
You’re as healthy as you feel
And as sexy as the slimmest of them.

If your skin ain’t tight,
Hit the gym or ride a bike.
But don’t let those surgical bodies
Cause you to lose sight.

Look your best and feel your best.
Worrying too much causes stress.
Spanks and shapers ain’t going nowhere,
So consider yourself blessed.

Train that waist, shed them wings,
Wrap them thighs and live the dream.
Whether your waist is club 20 or 30,
You’ve earned your self-esteem.

You can’t change everything about yourself.
Some areas are okay, and some need a little help.
Seek natural alternatives instead,
They’re much safer and better for your health.

If it ain’t homegrown, then leave it alone.
Nurture your trouble areas and keep your core strong.
You don’t have to be perfect when everyone else is flawed.
Applaud yourself for being healthy and not guilty of fraud.

It ain’t all about the booty.
It ain’t all about your figure.
Why short-change yourself,
When your worth is so much bigger.

The change is short, so you gotta be smart.
Doctors are winning, not you.
For big ole bucks, you get a quick fix
That doesn’t hold longer than glue.

Even celebrities are having regrets,
So take heed to their mistakes.
Invest more into yourself than a body that’s fake.

If you’ve already made the change,
I’m not bashing you.
Your new figure looks great,
And hopefully the walk you choose.

I’m here to uplift those who are thinking about it
And willing to take drastic measures,
Like taking chances with doctors, who have no public record.
And those who just can’t afford it and hide behind an avatar
Because people might shame and cause them to forget who they are.

So this is certainly not for you.
You’ve already made your decision.
But your confidence was somewhat compromised
Before you made the transition.

Correct me if I’m wrong because I’m not here to diss-
If something other than confidence made you take that risk.
Your reason is your business, and I wouldn’t dare pry.
I just want to help those women who are hurting deep inside.

You make it look so easy.
You flaunt it all so well.
They’re eager to take that risk.
So they too can show and tell.

It’s easy to love your new body.
And strut it the way you do.
But the things some women are dealing with
Are much bigger than you.

Now back to my unfit women and those who are overweight.
Stop complaining about your body and get back in shape.
Nah, that new body won’t make him commit.
And it surely won’t make him stay.
I’ve seen the baddest women,
Get used and thrown away.

Go for the challenge and be a challenge.
Men love to compete.
Do just enough to be healthy because confidence is the key.

If you love yourself, grace your space, and it will show in your walk.
He’ll treat you like a queen and actually listen when you talk.
Let your attitude be on “fleek” and your beauty bars will rise,
When you’ve earned your body, you don’t need a disguise.

Now don’t go clowning skinny women
Now that you feel good about yourself.
Continue on with your regimen
And leave negativity on the shelf.

Spread Cheer All Year

‘Tis the season to be jolly…fa la la la la la la la la. I’m sure you all are familiar with that famous line. It brings warmth and cheer during the Christmas season, doesn’t it? Well why is it that we don’t strive to spread warmth and cheer all throughout the year? It saddens me to see how cruel people can be towards one another all throughout the year, then turn around and act like angels and saints during the Christmas season. Something’s wrong with that picture.

If during the Christmas season is the only time you are giving and showing love and care for others, you are a hypocrite. Doing good deeds only during the Christmas holidays and major world crises do not make you a virtuous person. It makes you a pretentious person. If no one else was giving during the holidays, you probably wouldn’t either. I’m not saying you are malign either, but you’re definitely not a saint.

People need love, care, and attention all throughout the year, not just at Christmas. I believe if people exercised their due diligence all year long, less people would suffer and succumb to the evils of the world. People should not have to wait until the end of the year or some major catastrophe to happen just to get help. We love to offer our prayers as support, but prayer with no action is not substantial. God puts people in place on Earth to do His works. If you didn’t believe so, then you would let God himself deliver gifts at Christmas time.

Every day, people need food. Every day, people need money. Every day, people need support. Every day, people need love, care, attention, prayers, etc. You needed it when you lost your loved one. You needed it when you lost your job. You needed it when you were destitute. You needed it when you were trying something new. You needed it when you were lonely. You needed it after your divorce. You needed it when you had moments of despair, anxiety, and pity. Because you know what it feels like to have a need, you should always be prepared to be a blessing.

I see many people’s requests and outcries get ignored all the time. When a person loses a loved one, many offer prayers and condolences. Some want to know how did so and so die? But how many offer their money, time, or services? Why must one be a celebrity or other iconic figure to gain support? Why must it capture the world’s attention to create a sense of urgency? Why must people die to get the attention they needed when they were alive? You can promote the welfare of others with your own good works. You can bring out the best in people by doing something good for them. Many people who do good works all throughout the year either have empathy, a zeal for helping people, and/or they are simply paying it forward.

If ever someone has to tell you to do a good deed, you should reflect on your own life, count your blessings, and rethink your morality.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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Too Thot to Trot

That Hoe Over There or “Thot” claims the name of a treacherous female with no shame in her game. How many of us have been thots before we married or settled down with that one person? What possessed you to behave in such manner? What makes you so different now? These questions are not meant to wake dead emotions or criticize your past persona. They are meant to make you think about how you used to be before you matured and became socially responsible.

You may have not been called a thot back then, but you were called some derogatory term such as whore, tramp, or slut. You were popping, shaking, or twerking in daisy dukes and crop tops and having sexual intercourse with different men before you got saved. You didn’t care what you were called as long as it wasn’t done to your face. Some of you even thought it was cool to sleep with married men. Some of you would go as far as seducing another girl’s boyfriend just to prove you can get him. If that’s not thottish, then I don’t know what else to call it.

Where was your head when you were thotting? Did you have some traumatic experience in your early childhood? Maybe mom or dad wasn’t there or showed neglect. Maybe you just wanted to be cool or accepted. Maybe you had low self-esteem. There are numerous reasons that could’ve kept you from being lady-like or modest. You probably didn’t realize that some unfortunate occurrence from your past was the root cause of your present behavior at the time. You just learned to live with it, or better yet, deal with it in such immoral way. No one ever sat you down and taught you how to be a lady, so you had to figure it out on your own or much later in life after making a few mistakes.

Many of you just had to learn from your mistakes because you wouldn’t listen to anybody. Some of you had excellent role models. But you wanted to be accepted by your peers who were thots as well. You later learned that the leader who is ostracized also gets the prize.

Most men do not value anything with a lot of miles on it unless it has a rebuilt engine. Still, he takes a chance on that beauty. Without proper diagnostic and maintenance, other things will start falling apart eventually. The one with less miles usually brings less worries, less drama, and less stress. If you didn’t think so, you wouldn’t have traded in your ’84 Ford or similar.

Young ladies, if you don’t want to be labeled as a thot, don’t behave or dress like one. If priests started wearing white hoods covering their faces, you’d confuse them with the Ku Klux Klan. Mature ladies, don’t judge them. Guide them.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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