So, we’re just classless nowadays, aren’t we? I guess more skin is the trend. Instead of calling it what it really is, we’d rather label it as “body confidence”. However, I never knew confidence came at the expense of disrespecting yourself.
You can call it whatever you want to, but I’m going to call it what it is. Unless your profession involves prostitution, stripping, or the like, then your confidence is creating confusion. Confident women sell class, not ass.
I can remember when spandex was enough. It grips your figure and accentuates your curves. If sexy was what you were going for, then spandex was all you needed. When worn right, it gives just enough without giving too much.
When you leave nothing to the imagination, you’re exhibiting an insecurity, not confidence, body positivity, or whatever you’d prefer to call it. Confident women don’t need to advertise their body parts to make a statement. Their walk alone speaks volume.
I’m not criticizing. I’m correcting because we all need that. As a woman, I’ve had my own insecurities, but I never addressed them by putting my body parts on display. I’m not saying I’ve never shown cleavage or stepped just a little outside my comfort zone, but I’ve never made it my daily uniform. Moreover, my behavior did not change.
Today, I see too much “body” but much less “beauty”. I’m not referring to looks, for that type of beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. The beauty of a woman is made up of so much more than looks. Beauty is behavior and attitude. That’s what makes you attractive. Case in point: Let’s say two identical women are dressed the same. Yet one is loquacious, defensive, and aggressive, whereas the other one is peaceful, positive, and patient. Which one would you consider beautiful then?
Nowadays, most people don’t pay much attention to what you’re wearing until you start acting out. That’s when your lack of confidence starts to show. You want to be seen and heard but not judged. I regret to inform you that you’re judged on so much more than what you wear.
You’re judged on how well you can carry on an adult conversation. You’re judged on how well you perform on your job. You’re judged by insurance companies on how well you drive. You’re also judged on how well you can tell the lie your lawyer crafted for you. So why shouldn’t you be judged according to the way you dress?
The “little” you wear says a “lot” about you. You’re easy to spot but hard to please because you have so many demands. Women who have many demands usually bring nothing to the table, other than what they’re already showcasing. If wearing less makes you feel good about yourself, then you have some serious soul searching to do. Once you find yourself, people will then see below the surface.
“The body seeks what true beauty speaks.”
-Bianca A. McCormick-Johnson ✍🏽
Whew! Well said, friend! You’ve said it “ Body Positivity or Insecurity”? I believe it’s insecurity for the majority of women and they really believe that’s what men like. Most men love to see women half-naked. I can speak on this matter because a man would tell his wife not to dress that way but would cheat on his wife for a woman who dresses like that! The world that we’re living in is very weird and shallow!
We must do better because we’re all beautifully made. Clothes are just decorations. How we wear them can make a good or bad statement about us.
I couldn’t agree more. As a model agent I receive all sorts of photo submissions and many times I have to tell the models to resubmit new photos. They want to show it all and yes wearing a tank and form fitting jeans is definitely appropriate to send to an agent but sending photos in a thong is inappropriate unless, as you stated above, they are trying to get a job in a field that accepts less clothing!
I believe media and celebrity influence have set the standard for beauty nowadays. More focus tends to be on our bodies than natural beauty and character. Young girls are seeking the wrong kind of attention from this trending distraction diminishing our value in society.