May 2016 – Page 4 – Life Lessons

4 Ways to Lose a Friend

Friendship is a touchy topic because of the many failures people have had with them. If you desire to have a longtime friendship, you have to model the kind of friend you want in that person. As the late great Maya Angelou said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time”. In that way, the door will not be left open for surprises or disappointment. Nevertheless, you can surely lose your friend, if you violate any of the code of ethics for friendship.

The dos and don’ts of friendship is left up to your sole discretion. Your morals, beliefs, and the value you put on that friendship are factors that can affect your decision as well. But in most cases, you can damage any friendship by doing any of these four things:

Sleep with you friend’s mate/partner.
I absolutely have no words for a person who does this. Seek spiritual or professional help.
Steal any of your friend’s possessions, especially money.
A real friend would have probably just given it to you, if you had asked.
Lie on your friend or spread lies about your friend.
Loyalty does not equate to taking the blame for someone, and if you don’t know have any evidence, hush. If you do have evidence, still hush.
Break commitment after commitment.
If you have to continue lying or making excuses as to why you can’t keep your commitment, you are not loyal and definitely can’t be depended on.

I’m sure many of you can add to this list, for every situation lends a different kind of experience. You may not realize what might be a deal breaker, until it actually happens.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

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People Don’t Be Having No Money

People don’t be having no money,
Poppin’ bottles, wining and dining,
Trying to pay with a Mastercard that keeps on declining.

People don’t be having no money,
Sporting Michael Kors and Coach bags,
On food stamps and Section 8,
But driving ‘round in a Jag,
Can’t pay bills on time,
But be the first in line,
When the government’s giving handouts,
Talkin ‘bout, “I gotta get mine”,
Riding around with no insurance and a year old temp tag,
Image looking good but credit looking bad.

People don’t be having no money,
Staying at five star hotels,
Maintaining their hair and nails,
Broke as a joke but you can’t tell,
On top of the latest trends,
Boasting and bragging to friends,
Trying to keep up with the Joneses,
But the Joneses got ends.

People don’t be having no money,
Taking trips around the world,
Maxing out credit cards,
Buying diamonds and pearls,
Don’t miss a Black Friday,
But red in their accounts,
Gas tank on “E”,
And ‘bout to get put out.

People don’t be having no money,
But like to have their way,
Living from paycheck to paycheck,
Barely making it through each day,
Living large at all costs,
Steady taking a loss,
Do yourself a favor,
And quit showing off.

You ain’t got no money,
But if you have any sense,
Take that little bit you have,
And make an in-vest-ment.

You are the Father!

It was a cold winter night. You were drinking. So was she. One thing led to another, and your lover conceived. When she tells you she’s pregnant, you reply, “For me?” If chickens can lay eggs, then so can she. No protection was used, yet you are wondering how it’s possible. If you would have put down that bottle, you wouldn’t have to face this obstacle.

Men, you have to take responsibility for your actions. You can enjoy the company of a female without getting her pregnant. If you didn’t trust her, then why did you sleep with her, let alone fail to use protection? Do you think you are exempt from catching STDs? There is no cure for HIV. And if there is, you probably can’t afford it. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be all tense behind taking care of a child you claim is not yours. Women have it hard enough having to carry the child. It puts even more stress on her when the man she slept with denies her child.

Don’t let a one night stand turn you into a father you are not ready to be. That’s why there are so many illegitimate children in the world seeking the love and attention missing from the absent parent. This is especially true for young women. Do you ever wonder why some girls are easy or always have their hands out? It’s because a daddy is the first man in a girl’s life. He spoils her and treats her like a princess. When she becomes a woman, she doesn’t settle for empty love and does not need your handouts. The absence of this kind of love leads to a broken heart and empty pockets. Every female is different, of course, but this is true for many.

So if you are not ready to man up and take responsibility, keep it in your pants or wear protection next time. If you could never see yourself building a family with her, don’t even take the chance.

And remember…
“Make sense of what you do, and make every cent count.”

What are your thoughts? I’d love to hear them.

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Photo: Flickr. Fatherhood by Mithun Das

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